The scary thing about these arseholes (and they belong to both genders) is that they are so convinced they are 'right' that their views start to rub off on those around them.

Their partners start to lose sight of what is right and wrong. "Is s/he being an arsehole when s/he refuses to look after the kids/support my hobbies/let me have my own bank account??? Or am I being unreasonable?"

The arsehole partner acts so self-righteous and makes such a fuss about being correct that it becomes hard to get a good perspective. I can tell you, a Reddit forum sounds like a great place for a sanity check!

I survived many years with an arsehole partner and he truly believes his fucknuckle choices were fair and justified. So much so that when I was with him I was constantly doubting my own judgement. I'm not sure Reddit would have changed his perspective but it sure as hell would have validated mine.

Thanks for the great article, Jessica.